I think it's possible. There's a lot of people who've done it and last a lifetime. You need the test drive before investing, right? Lol. But in all seriousness, I think it has a lot to do with the mindset both have before and after sex.
Honestly, I think that it depends on how mature people are about the situation. It also depends on how the situation plays out for example so people have been attracted to each other for a while but no one ever made a move or perhaps there were several other factors preventing them from being together. In such a case sex on the first night may be acceptable. Whereas sex on the first night with someone you just met may be frowned upon. Every situation is different so at the end of the day it all starts with the maturity of the individuals coming together.
To have a successful relationship with anyone, a person has to know just about everything there is to know about their partner and besides marriage and a family, sex is the ultimate goal in a relationship. When sex is performed too soon, there are many steps to a "successful relationship" that a couple would miss out on causing one or another to regret moving too fast. Curiousity fades once a person knows what they're actually getting which could put a huge dint in a relationship if it's perform too soon. Typically, men love the chase and if a couple has sex on the first night, there wouldn't be much for him to chase making him want to run in the opposite direction. Typically, for a woman to have sex on the first night, more often than not, she's doing it to replace a feeling or void. Normally, it's a bad one, but actually getting to know her will only reveal that feeling, which means to wait and have sex if you want a "successful relationship".
I TOTALLY DISAGREED WITH THE TWO WOMEN WHO LEFT COMMENTS ON THIS TOPIC PAGE... And once again, this verifies what I've been saying all along about the way women think NOWADAYS... There is NO GOOD LOGICAL reason to "Give Up The Cookies" on the very FIRST DATE... What ever happen to going out to get a drink or something to eat or just talking first face-to-face... Women think just because they talk to a guy for alil while online or by cell they know him personally like the back of their hands... And if they meet him and "Do" him JUST RIGHT, he might be willing to become their man...lol..... Well, believe it or not, ladies....90% of the time....HE DOES NOT!...and you end up being just another one he GOT!...
Give it up on the FIRST DATE!...Never!!!! I consider myself a LADY and we don’t carry ourselves that way... I don’t care if its Taye Diggs' fine a** or Trey Songs or Terrence Howard or hunk LL COOL J...lol Wait a min, Taye, Trey, Terrence And LL Cool J!... HECK, forget being a lady, I'll "Do" ALL them bruthas on the FIRST, SECOND & THIRD DATE!...lol...lol
I think it's possible. There's a lot of people who've done it and last a lifetime. You need the test drive before investing, right? Lol. But in all seriousness, I think it has a lot to do with the mindset both have before and after sex.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think that it depends on how mature people are about the situation. It also depends on how the situation plays out for example so people have been attracted to each other for a while but no one ever made a move or perhaps there were several other factors preventing them from being together. In such a case sex on the first night may be acceptable. Whereas sex on the first night with someone you just met may be frowned upon. Every situation is different so at the end of the day it all starts with the maturity of the individuals coming together.
ReplyDeleteTo have a successful relationship with anyone, a person has to know just about everything there is to know about their partner and besides marriage and a family, sex is the ultimate goal in a relationship. When sex is performed too soon, there are many steps to a "successful relationship" that a couple would miss out on causing one or another to regret moving too fast. Curiousity fades once a person knows what they're actually getting which could put a huge dint in a relationship if it's perform too soon. Typically, men love the chase and if a couple has sex on the first night, there wouldn't be much for him to chase making him want to run in the opposite direction. Typically, for a woman to have sex on the first night, more often than not, she's doing it to replace a feeling or void. Normally, it's a bad one, but actually getting to know her will only reveal that feeling, which means to wait and have sex if you want a "successful relationship".
ReplyDeleteI TOTALLY DISAGREED WITH THE TWO WOMEN WHO LEFT COMMENTS ON THIS TOPIC PAGE...
ReplyDeleteAnd once again, this verifies what I've been saying all along about the way women think NOWADAYS...
There is NO GOOD LOGICAL reason to "Give Up The Cookies" on the very FIRST DATE...
What ever happen to going out to get a drink or something to eat or just talking first face-to-face...
Women think just because they talk to a guy for alil while online or by cell they know him personally like the back of their hands...
And if they meet him and "Do" him JUST RIGHT, he might be willing to become their man...lol.....
Well, believe it or not, ladies....90% of the time....HE DOES NOT!...and you end up being just another one he GOT!...
BTW, Mr. TJ,
ReplyDeleteYou are 100% right, once again...lol
I see you do have alot of knowledge in that young brain...lol
your anonymous facebook friend
Give it up on the FIRST DATE!...Never!!!! I consider myself a LADY and we don’t carry ourselves that way...
ReplyDeleteI don’t care if its Taye Diggs' fine a** or Trey Songs or Terrence Howard or hunk LL COOL J...lol
Wait a min, Taye, Trey, Terrence And LL Cool J!...
HECK, forget being a lady, I'll "Do" ALL them bruthas on the FIRST, SECOND & THIRD DATE!...lol...lol