To me it means sex with no strings attached, plain and simple. After the deed is done, everyone goes on with their life. The only bad thing with this is that someone always ends up having feelings. Of course you have to have some sort of attraction to the person you're sleeping with, but once one of both parties involved start having feelings, they will stop seeing it as sex and start seeing it as a relationship.
A "friend with benefits" relationship is actually a couple without a committment. When two people are in a "friend with benefits" relationship, they tend to portray as if they're in a relationship when they're not. More often than not, they would talk on the phone reguarly, hangout, date, but majority of the time just have sex with one another which causes feelings to evolve. Sex draws feelings. Especially for a woman. Just because a person plans to just have sex and not get attached to someone doesn't mean that it's going to happen as planned. Few things happen planned and many things happen unplanned. Eventually, someone's feelings will grow and the "friend with benefits" relationship will either evolve into a full fledge committed relationship or no relationship will exist at all. Overall, a "friend with benefits" relationship will not last long because feelings will evolve and one or another will want a committed relationship.
are you considered friends if this last for six years and there's and emotional attachment on both ends and what is shared is way deeper than just sex!
Yes, you are still considered friends. Sex draws feeling though. Nothing that’s ever planned goes the way a person wants it to because it will either be better than what you thought it would be or worse, but never the same.
MY QUESTION TO YOU: Since you’ll had an “emotional attachment, had a relationship deeper than just sex, and most importantly, lasted for 6 years”, why didn’t you’ll make it official and become a couple?
Honestly speaking he so called didnt want to be in a relationship and didnt think it would go as far as it did. he tried plenty of times to end what we had but i was stupid in love not even knowing if he felt the same way i just settled for what we was. until one day he told me his feelings and it just changed everything. i feel like he gave me hope that we were going to be a couple but he blames it on me always leaving and coming back which is a lie. and i feel it last so long because we both wont let go.
You cannot expect a man to treat you like a queen, if he’s not treating you like one from the jump.
Just because you like or love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them.
It will take a lot of time to move on, but time heals ALL wounds.
You can never expect someone to feel the same way you feel. Maybe it might be more or it might be less, but it will never be the same amount of love given. Everybody receives and gives love their own way.
Don’t settle for less than you deserve. It doesn’t take long for anyone to know that they want to be with their person they’re spending time with and it certainly doesn’t take 6 years. You have to make them work for it. Nothing a person wants comes or should come easy. Nobody wants to buy milk if they can have the cow for free.
Overall, when you’re dating, it’s good to give a person what you have to offer, but don’t give them everything you have to offer until you’ll make it official. Make them earn it. It doesn’t take long for a person to step to the plate, so if they’re not stepping to the plate then you step away. In additional, if you give someone you’re all and they’re not interested, you would feel as if you did something wrong or moved too fast when it might not be your fault. Take your time and know your worth, and then they’ll know your worth and rush in, if you’re what they want.
MY QUESTION TO YOU IS How do you know that you moving back and forth isn't the true reason why his feelings changed and didn’t want to make it official?
To me it means sex with no strings attached, plain and simple. After the deed is done, everyone goes on with their life. The only bad thing with this is that someone always ends up having feelings. Of course you have to have some sort of attraction to the person you're sleeping with, but once one of both parties involved start having feelings, they will stop seeing it as sex and start seeing it as a relationship.
ReplyDeleteA "friend with benefits" relationship is actually a couple without a committment. When two people are in a "friend with benefits" relationship, they tend to portray as if they're in a relationship when they're not. More often than not, they would talk on the phone reguarly, hangout, date, but majority of the time just have sex with one another which causes feelings to evolve. Sex draws feelings. Especially for a woman. Just because a person plans to just have sex and not get attached to someone doesn't mean that it's going to happen as planned. Few things happen planned and many things happen unplanned. Eventually, someone's feelings will grow and the "friend with benefits" relationship will either evolve into a full fledge committed relationship or no relationship will exist at all. Overall, a "friend with benefits" relationship will not last long because feelings will evolve and one or another will want a committed relationship.
ReplyDeleteare you considered friends if this last for six years and there's and emotional attachment on both ends and what is shared is way deeper than just sex!
ReplyDeleteYes, you are still considered friends. Sex draws feeling though. Nothing that’s ever planned goes the way a person wants it to because it will either be better than what you thought it would be or worse, but never the same.
ReplyDeleteMY QUESTION TO YOU:
Since you’ll had an “emotional attachment, had a relationship deeper than just sex, and most importantly, lasted for 6 years”, why didn’t you’ll make it official and become a couple?
Honestly speaking he so called didnt want to be in a relationship and didnt think it would go as far as it did. he tried plenty of times to end what we had but i was stupid in love not even knowing if he felt the same way i just settled for what we was. until one day he told me his feelings and it just changed everything. i feel like he gave me hope that we were going to be a couple but he blames it on me always leaving and coming back which is a lie. and i feel it last so long because we both wont let go.
ReplyDeletei'm closing that chapter in my life now, its just a sensitive subject because he was my first real love my first everything
ReplyDeleteYou cannot expect a man to treat you like a queen, if he’s not treating you like one from the jump.
ReplyDeleteJust because you like or love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them.
It will take a lot of time to move on, but time heals ALL wounds.
You can never expect someone to feel the same way you feel. Maybe it might be more or it might be less, but it will never be the same amount of love given. Everybody receives and gives love their own way.
Don’t settle for less than you deserve. It doesn’t take long for anyone to know that they want to be with their person they’re spending time with and it certainly doesn’t take 6 years. You have to make them work for it. Nothing a person wants comes or should come easy. Nobody wants to buy milk if they can have the cow for free.
Overall, when you’re dating, it’s good to give a person what you have to offer, but don’t give them everything you have to offer until you’ll make it official. Make them earn it. It doesn’t take long for a person to step to the plate, so if they’re not stepping to the plate then you step away. In additional, if you give someone you’re all and they’re not interested, you would feel as if you did something wrong or moved too fast when it might not be your fault. Take your time and know your worth, and then they’ll know your worth and rush in, if you’re what they want.
MY QUESTION TO YOU IS
How do you know that you moving back and forth isn't the true reason why his feelings changed and didn’t want to make it official?