ANONYMOUS I'm gonna write you my story in a few. On here though. I don't want to write on the status where everyone can see
Ask TJ Jones No problem I tell everybody to talk to me one on one. Everything I ever discuss with anyone is CONFIDENTIAL.
ANONYMOUS I know. Brb with my novel lol
Ask TJ Jones Take your time.
ANONYMOUS So..... I met this guy back in November. He's a great guy, by the way. Everything was going until February. I let my jealousy take over me. He's never given me a reason to be so I can't explain my actions. Back in April, he said we needed a break. He was gonna focus & finish school in May & I had to figure out what I was gonna do with my life. We both want the same type of future as far as marriage & kids etc... He's scared to re commit & give his all again & I mess up again. He hates my attitude, I know it's something I need to work on... He just got back from vacation & came back different, good different. There's more but too much
Ask TJ Jones Jealousy is a sign of love. People that don't care about someone don't get jealous for or over them. Seems to me like he was the man for you, you knew that, but didn't want anybody else to have him either which came out when you were jealous.
If you really want him back, show him why he should be with you. Show him you changed for the better. Tell him that he's a good man, tell him that you were wrong, tell him what you were wrong for, tell him you won't do it again, tell him why you won't do it again, and lastly, assure him that you won't do it again.
Overall, show him something different. If he feels that he's going to have the same problems with you then he's NOT going to want to deal with you nor want to be with you.
ANONYMOUS You are so right!!! That's why he's still around cause there is love & he wants to see different
Ask TJ Jones So, show him something different.
1) Have you changed? 2) What do you think you would be able to bring to you'll table this time around and do different?
You know you have a lot of work to do because first impressions last.
ANONYMOUS I know I've changed. I was never in denial, I knew/know what I need to work on. I just need to relax and be who he fell in love with. It's not easy to express my feelings cause I'm shy, sometimes. I'm supposed to take him out to dinner for his graduation so I just need to talk to him
Ask TJ Jones Whenever you feel like you aren't able to express your feelings, what a letter to yourself. You will get everything that makes your heart heavy off it and since it's to you, you would be the only person that reads it.
When you do take him out to dinner, take him to a restaurant that you'll never been to. Show him you can be diverse. Show him you've changed. He'll be impressed. Also, don't talk about you'll situation. It's his day. Don't make it seem like it's about you. Just go with the flow. Going with the flow can turn any situation around. (360)
ANONYMOUS You're right. We went for a walk Saturday night & we spoke nothing about the issue & it felt good. We actually had a good time. Thx Tj!!!!
Ask TJ Jones So, what are you going to do on you'll date?
When you'll do talk about you'll, what are you going to tell him and show him?
ANONYMOUS We're definitely going somewhere new. I'm even gonna dress up & throw on my heels lol! I'm just gonna go with the flow on the conversation. I don't want to be pushy
Ask TJ Jones Okay. I'm here if you need me. If you feel shy or nervous on the date, go to the bathroom and reach out to me. I'll be there when you need me.
ANONYMOUS Lmao!!! Will do thx
Ask TJ Jones Anytime. Don't mention it. I'm glad I can help.
ANONYMOUS. You did.
Ask TJ Jones So, where are you taking him Saturday for you'll date?
ANONYMOUS Not sure yet. I'm gonna let him choose
Ask TJ Jones Check it out, here's an idea. I know you'll going to dinner, so ask him what he wants to eat, but you take him to a restaurant that servers that type of food. That way, you're still in charge of the date.
Example. If he wants Chinese, take him to a Chinese restaurant, but of your choosing that you'll never been to before.
It would be everything he wants, but you'll be controlling it.
Why do you think Jealousy is a sign of love. To me its a sign of low self-esteem. The person think they are not good enough for the other. so they expect something is wrong. If you love the person you do any thing to keep their interest. Jealousy has a lot to do with trust also. Jealousy is define as; secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection
Jealousy is a sign of love because people only get jealous when they care about or love something or someone. NOBODY would get jealous, if they didn't care or love something or someone.
Self esteem is how a person feels within. Jealousy is totally different. Jealousy definitely has a lot to do with trust though.
Referring to your defintion: "Something that a person values, particularly in reference to a human connection" doesn't refer to self esteem.
Something of value is "love" which a person should have for their partner. In addition, it's a human connection.
the part referring to feelings of insecurity does. I totally disagree with your theory. I dont have to love someone to be jealous of them. I can be jealous of you because of your car, I dont love you but wish I had what you have and know that I cant get it or dont desire it
ANONYMOUS
ReplyDeleteI'm gonna write you my story in a few. On here though. I don't want to write on the status where everyone can see
Ask TJ Jones
No problem I tell everybody to talk to me one on one. Everything I ever discuss with anyone is CONFIDENTIAL.
ANONYMOUS
I know. Brb with my novel lol
Ask TJ Jones
Take your time.
ANONYMOUS
So..... I met this guy back in November. He's a great guy, by the way. Everything was going until February. I let my jealousy take over me. He's never given me a reason to be so I can't explain my actions. Back in April, he said we needed a break. He was gonna focus & finish school in May & I had to figure out what I was gonna do with my life. We both want the same type of future as far as marriage & kids etc... He's scared to re commit & give his all again & I mess up again. He hates my attitude, I know it's something I need to work on... He just got back from vacation & came back different, good different. There's more but too much
Ask TJ Jones
Jealousy is a sign of love. People that don't care about someone don't get jealous for or over them. Seems to me like he was the man for you, you knew that, but didn't want anybody else to have him either which came out when you were jealous.
If you really want him back, show him why he should be with you. Show him you changed for the better. Tell him that he's a good man, tell him that you were wrong, tell him what you were wrong for, tell him you won't do it again, tell him why you won't do it again, and lastly, assure him that you won't do it again.
Overall, show him something different. If he feels that he's going to have the same problems with you then he's NOT going to want to deal with you nor want to be with you.
ANONYMOUS
You are so right!!! That's why he's still around cause there is love & he wants to see different
Ask TJ Jones
So, show him something different.
1) Have you changed?
2) What do you think you would be able to bring to you'll table this time around and do different?
You know you have a lot of work to do because first impressions last.
ANONYMOUS
I know I've changed. I was never in denial, I knew/know what I need to work on. I just need to relax and be who he fell in love with. It's not easy to express my feelings cause I'm shy, sometimes. I'm supposed to take him out to dinner for his graduation so I just need to talk to him
Ask TJ Jones
Whenever you feel like you aren't able to express your feelings, what a letter to yourself. You will get everything that makes your heart heavy off it and since it's to you, you would be the only person that reads it.
When you do take him out to dinner, take him to a restaurant that you'll never been to. Show him you can be diverse. Show him you've changed. He'll be impressed. Also, don't talk about you'll situation. It's his day. Don't make it seem like it's about you. Just go with the flow. Going with the flow can turn any situation around. (360)
ANONYMOUS
You're right. We went for a walk Saturday night & we spoke nothing about the issue & it felt good. We actually had a good time. Thx Tj!!!!
Ask TJ Jones
ReplyDeleteSo, what are you going to do on you'll date?
When you'll do talk about you'll, what are you going to tell him and show him?
ANONYMOUS
We're definitely going somewhere new. I'm even gonna dress up & throw on my heels lol! I'm just gonna go with the flow on the conversation. I don't want to be pushy
Ask TJ Jones
Okay. I'm here if you need me. If you feel shy or nervous on the date, go to the bathroom and reach out to me. I'll be there when you need me.
ANONYMOUS
Lmao!!! Will do thx
Ask TJ Jones
Anytime. Don't mention it. I'm glad I can help.
ANONYMOUS. You did.
Ask TJ Jones
So, where are you taking him Saturday for you'll date?
ANONYMOUS
Not sure yet. I'm gonna let him choose
Ask TJ Jones
Check it out, here's an idea. I know you'll going to dinner, so ask him what he wants to eat, but you take him to a restaurant that servers that type of food.
That way, you're still in charge of the date.
Example. If he wants Chinese, take him to a Chinese restaurant, but of your choosing that you'll never been to before.
It would be everything he wants, but you'll be controlling it.
ANONYMOUS
Yup!!! I'll do that
Why do you think Jealousy is a sign of love. To me its a sign of low self-esteem. The person think they are not good enough for the other. so they expect something is wrong. If you love the person you do any thing to keep their interest. Jealousy has a lot to do with trust also. Jealousy is define as; secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection
ReplyDeleteJealousy is a sign of love because people only get jealous when they care about or love something or someone. NOBODY would get jealous, if they didn't care or love something or someone.
ReplyDeleteSelf esteem is how a person feels within. Jealousy is totally different. Jealousy definitely has a lot to do with trust though.
Referring to your defintion:
"Something that a person values, particularly in reference to a human connection" doesn't refer to self esteem.
Something of value is "love" which a person should have for their partner. In addition, it's a human connection.
the part referring to feelings of insecurity does. I totally disagree with your theory. I dont have to love someone to be jealous of them. I can be jealous of you because of your car, I dont love you but wish I had what you have and know that I cant get it or dont desire it
ReplyDelete"The part referring to feelings of insecurity does" what?
ReplyDeleteI never said that a person has to love someone to be jealous. I said jealousy is a sign of love and when people are in love, jealousy can be a result.